Don’t EVER apologize for who you are! I’m about to get super real and passionate with you about something…Last night as I’m scrolling my Instagram feed, I saw a picture of a beautiful person sitting on the floor wearing a sports bra, leggings, and smiling from ear to ear. Pretty typical these days, right? It wasn’t the outfit that puzzled me, it was her pose, and even more disheartening the caption she wrote. She sat in a slouched position so that her stomach would show “rolls.” She then goes on to talk about how hard she works and is rarely happy with her progress. In addition she prefaces her caption with, “this is really hard for me to post…”. The picture didn’t match the feelings?!?
I’m all for the Instagram vs. reality pics but realize that the moment your turn your post into a “this is real life, I have rolls and a double chin…”, it destroys the point you were trying to make to begin with. If you’re going to post your reality, be proud of that! Don’t tear yourself down because you’re being “real”, flaunt that shit, that’s the realness -THAT’S THE POWER!
This person was clearly proud of her photo to post it in the first place. It takes guts to put vulnerabilities out there for the world to see. Why though, does almost every post like this start with, “this is really uncomfortable for me to post but…” or, “I know people are going to say…” or, “I know I’m not perfect but…”? If you’re proud of your accomplishments, or proud of the content you are going to publish, then just post it and be PROUD! You don’t need permission, validation, or to have a precursor to why you are posting a photo of yourself.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -Eleanor Roosevelt
It’s called confidence. The problem with the fitness industry, and it’s always been this way is that there’s a stigma of how one should look. Duh, we all know about this. However, with social media running ramped with half-naked pictures, posing, and filters, it’s gotten even worse. Something that once felt unattainable to most, now feels like it’s a whole different species to live up to.
Consider the #BELFIE, the before and after selfie. Why the hell is the before picture usually sad and looking like you hate the world and yourself, in the worst set of underwear you can find? The after looks like you’ve just won a million dollars and like the heavens are shining rays of light down over you. These photos are great for visual progress, but does NOTHING for your self-worth internally. What happened to that person inside? How did you FEEL before, how do you FEEL now? My own transformation took several years, and I worked my ass off for my results, but I also worked on my mindset and stayed consistent because of it. That’s why my results last, I didn’t choose a crash course or 20 Days to a tighter tummy. I took a real approach, changed my behaviors, and didn’t punish myself along the way.
ABS = FITNESS
You don’t have to be shredded with abs to be “fit”, or have a thigh gap to be sexy. It’s how you FEEL! If you haven’t picked up on this yet, then you seriously need to revisit why you are doing this in the first place. Allow me to shed some facts on this for you because yes, I do know what it’s like to apologize for being who I am.
- If you think for one second being fit or skinny will take your depression away, or make you happy inside, you’re WRONG.
- If you consider fitness as just physical, you’re WRONG.
- If you’re posting these “progress” pics for followers and likes, you’re WRONG, and potentially making it WRONG for someone else like you, viewing it.
MAKE THE CONNECTION // REVISIT YOUR PERSPECTIVE
If you don’t connect to the reason you’re making changes to begin with, when you come out on the other side, at your “goal body”, you still won’t be happy. Your confidence and self-worth won’t improve, and you still won’t feel that sense of achievement. That goal you were chasing, suddenly doesn’t have anything attached to the feeling you thought you’d have when you started chasing that “after” photo.
mostly, the world sees you the way you see yourself. – Lisa Nichols
It’s an incredible motivator, wanting to take care of yourself, more people should. But, there needs to be more motivation, and ambition than vanity to give you the results you’re looking for. The fitness journey is hard for a reason, it does more than just alters you physically. If you let it, your whole mindset can change, and you’ll receive far more benefits than just physical transformation.
Be proud of you, feel good about your progress, be kind to yourself along the way, and celebrate your accomplishments. Don’t ever apologize for who you are, now or ever! No one can judge you unless you allow them to, an opinion is not a fact–ALWAYS remember that.
In finding your fitness,
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